Constant rejection dating
They are tired of the emailing and the men disappearing.
They are bored with guys who don’t follow through or ask for a second date.
This doesn’t mean “trying again” so many times until you wear her down (although a little persistence has been known to make a good impression.) It’s about knowing when your sights are best set elsewhere. And they all started out somewhere–often just with getting overly upset at a casual dismissal. So not only will she miss out on possible romance, but so will your fellow men whom she’s too gun shy now to even consider. Any life spent chasing goals is going to run into some resistance–romantic pursuits aside.
1500 women are murdered by intimate partners every year. But to assume it’s always because she deems you unworthy is not only often inaccurate, but smacks of insecurity and self-pity–two characteristics that will make sure she’s not interested. If your over-reacting fills her with a heightened fear of men, then she’ll be less likely to open her heart to the next guy. Even if just a little, by simply starting to take the everyday reaction of “Sorry, I’m not interested” with more maturity and aplomb. 8) If you can’t handle rejection from women, how will you handle it elsewhere?
You're all having a good time, chatting and having a couple of drinks, when you see a beautiful stranger at the other side of the room.
You decide to come up to him or her and start a conversation. Feeling rejected, you walk back over to your group of friends and spend the rest of the evening dwelling on how rejected you now feel.
Not a wonderful thing to do, but not a crime either. I won't, especially now that I have an idea how she would react if I did something really wrong. They cordially correspond with a guy, maybe chat on the phone, and decide - as they have every right to - that they don't want to pursue things.
Then they get one, two hostile, even hateful, emails from the guy, as though they had broken up after years together.
(A brief aside: another weirdness of internet dating is how many convicted felons there are out there - male and female.
But either way, we have a moral responsibility of dealing with it better. 4) Becoming a disgruntled “rejectee” makes you one step closer to a stalker. 5) Getting upset at her isn’t exactly going to change her mind. Or when we fall prey to layoffs during a bad economy and find ourselves unexpectedly unemployed?
And if you do want to change her mind, start by showing you respect her decisions. You letting yourself getting too wounded by her disapproval means you could be on your way to some ridiculous pattern of over-reacting, and at its worst, possibly physical abuse. You’re also screwing it up for all the boys and young men out there in your life who are watching you, observing you are learning from your behavior when you get rebuffed by a woman. If we can’t handle when a woman says she’s not interested, how will be handle it when an employer says the same thing? When we get injured and can no longer run the marathon we’ve trained months for?
As a dating coach for women in midlife, I totally understand how disheartening it can be.
I myself went through this at 40 to find the man who became my adorable husband of 12 years now. Are you worried that finding love after 40 or 50 or even 60 is just a pipedream and you might be wasting your time?